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Becoming Your
Best Self - Top 10 Strategies For Stress-Free Living
By
Louise Kaelin
 1.
Identify and live by your values.
When we know what our values are, and our goals and actions are in harmony with
our values, we are seldom stressed or in conflict about what we are doing.
2. Complete the
Past
Sometimes we hang on to voices or perceived injustices from the past, long after
the person or situation is dead and gone. By bringing closure to these events,
we are free to move forward.
3. Plan for the
Future.
It is important to know where we want to go and to have a rough idea of how we
plan to get there. While it is important to give up final control to God or the
Universe, we need a sense of focus and direction to our lives. Planning for the
future gives us that sense of direction.
4. Live in the
Present.
This is key. Once we have completed the past and planned for the future, we need
to stay focused in the here and now. There is very little that we cannot handle
in the moment. (A clue: if you are feeling guilt, you are in the past. If you
are feeling fear, you are in the future. The absence of those feelings generally
means you are planted firmly in the present!).
5.
Understand that if you can dream it, then you can achieve it.
If we are -- truly -- not capable of something, then it is practically
impossible for us to dream about it. Knowledge of what we are capable of is in
each and every cell of our being. So no matter how wild and far-fetched your
dream appears, the very existence of the dream means that you can achieve it if
you are willing to commit to it.
6. Allow others
to live their own lives.
Allowing others to be themselves and to live their own lives is the first step
in being able to be yourself and living your own life. If you have any "shoulds"
or expectations of others, let them go. Shoulds kill relationships faster than
any weapon I know of and fill our lives with unnecessary stress.
7. Recognize God
in everyone.
Everyone (literally, everyone!) is a reflection of God. Sometimes we have to dig
a little deep to see it as our perceptions, expectations and fears cloud our
vision. But when we can recognize how God is mirrored in each person, our lives
are calmer and freer!
8. Create
reserves where you need them.
Stress is often created through lack, either right now or right around the
corner. Create reserves of time, space, money, love, vitality and meaningful
action, starting where you feel most stressed.
9. Focus on being
and not doing or having.
When we are focused on who we are, what kind of person we are, we tend to be on
a journey of spiritual evolution, which in itself tends to have less stress (or
the stress is less stressful!). When we are focused on doing or having, we are
not focused on our higher selves, but only on certain dimensions of who we are
(and usually on what we think that means). Be a being, not a doing!
10. Choose to be
the best you possible.
Making a choice to be our best selves, to live life to our fullest potential,
typically allows us to transcend our lives and reduces much stress because we
understand that the source of stress is temporary. Also, don't forget that
today, you are the best you've ever been! Revel in that fact.
About the Author:
Copyright Louise Morganti Kaelin. Louise is a Life Success Coach who partners
with individuals who are READY (to live their best life), WILLING (to explore
all options) and ABLE (to accept total support). Visit her website at
http://www.touchpointcoaching.com
for
many free resources to help you be your best self and live your life in
wholeness. One of those resources is her blog, Touchpoints to Wholeness,
available through the navbar. You can also sign up for her periodic free
newsletter (The 3-Minute Coach) which offers insightful and practical
suggestions for creating and being the person you WANT to be. You'll get a free
ebook (Blueprint for Success) just for signing up!
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